Regardless of how well two individuals may be matched, a lack of communication or repetitive misunderstandings can cause problems, and at its worst, can severely hinder or destroy the relationship. Amachi Pittsburgh developed the following resources to help improve your communication with your mentee and ultimately to help your mentee cope with the obstacles they face.
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Also, check out the following resources developed by our partners to enhance your mentoring relationship…
Mind Tools Ltd. provides a “How Good Are Your Communication Skills” quiz to test how effectively an individual crafts, delivers, and interprets messages. It provides test takers with a score and description, as well as detailed feedback on individual skills and shortcomings.
The Mentoring Partnership of Southwestern Pennsylvania has a “Helpful Communication Skills” articles that identifies and explains four communication skills: active listening, “I” messages, paraphrasing, and open-ended questions.
Gender-specific communication techniques are another facet of communicating effectively. Education Northwest‘s “Gender-Specific Approaches in Mentoring” explains social and cultural differences between boys and girls and offers practical strategies to best connect with each gender.
The Role of Trust in Mentoring
Trust is an essential part of any relationship, especially for children whose incarcerated parent(s) may have lessened their ability to trust adults in their lives. It’s important to keep in mind that a relationship arranged through a mentoring program such as Amachi Pittsburgh requires that these former strangers lay a foundation of trust first and foremost. Check out these resources from our partners to help you develop trust with your mentee.
Triple Creeks’ Masterful Mentoring newsletter discusses the three components that they believe are necessary for trust: integrity, competence, and caring. It also provides a practice exercise for mentors and mentees to engage in a dialogue about trust.
Another informative resource is “Building Relationships: A Guide for New Mentors,” which discusses the importance of trust in the first section, along with making it the eighth principle of effective mentoring.
Kaplan Newsweek has created the Mentoring Life Cycle. Phase one is “Building Trust,” which demonstrates how vital it is to a healthy and positive mentoring relationship.